This past Sunday, I was able to attend the United We Stand Lecture Series with speaker Curt Patrouille. Curt is a UWP allumi who served in the military for 27 years. During his talk, he shared his experiences with adversity and the importance of being resilient in hard times. He had some excellent points and shared some great motivational stories that I would like to now pass on to all of you 🙂
The first strategy that Curt shared was to Hunt the Good Stuff. So often in today’s society we dwell on the hardships in our lives and fail to appreciate the positives. To illustrate his point he shared with the group about Rick Hoyt. He was born with his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck, so he was paralyzed and had limited motor skills. However with the help and encouragement from his family, Rick was able to graduate from high school and go to college to obtain a degree in Special Education. At one time, Rick decided he wanted to participate in a 5 mile benefit race for a lacrosse player who had been paralyzed. Rick’s father ran the race pushing his wheel chair and they finished. After the race, the pair continued to compete in further races, include a few Iron Man’s, because when competing with his Dad, Rick did not feel paralyzed. Watch this video to learn more about the story of Team Hoyt here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MnhDyc7AZ5U
A method that Curt offered the group for Hunting the Good Stuff is at least 3 times a week write down three good things that have happened to you. Reflect on why these things make you feel good and why they happened. As you continue to do this, the emphasis on the negatives in your life will decrease and you will have more positives leading to more happy and enjoyable days.
The other strategy that Curt shared is called Active Constructive Responding. This involves communication involving talking, listening, following up, and building relationships. We all need a support system, and if we are there to talk and listen to those around us when they are in need, we will have that support and encouragement to back us up when hardships and stress arise.
In the end, the point of this whole talk was to remember that we have the ability to change our attitude and perspective to find the positives in any situation. We all need to remember to create our own definitions of success and not to let others opinions dictate how we feel about ourselves and our accomplishments.
If you are going struggling with adversity in your own life check out this resource to find more helpful tips: http://www.intouch.org/watch/when-adversity-strikes/an-intimate-look-at-adversity